Dear Lyana, Here’s Your Purpose

 

Dear Lyana, Here’s Your Purpose

Yesterday, someone asked me, “What’s your purpose in life?” And for a moment, I couldn’t answer. My mind went blank. My heart, quiet. I just… didn’t know.

It haunted me a little, that question. It followed me home, sat beside me in silence, and whispered itself again as I lay in bed. “What is your purpose, Lyana?”

And so, I did what I’ve always done best, I went inward. I talked to my inner self. I reflected quietly. I searched not for the “right” answer, but the real one.

And here it is.

Dear Lyana, Your purpose… is to be a housewife.

Yes, I know it sounds simple. Small, even, to some. But not to you. To you, that word holds peace, softness, and deep-rooted joy. Because caregiving has always been your nature. Because home has always been your favorite place. Because nurturing is not just something you do, it’s who you are.

Do you remember, back in school, when the teacher asked the class to write down your ambitions? Everyone wrote down big titles and dream careers. And your list was this:
3. Doctor
2. Teacher
1. Mother.

Even back then, you knew. You didn't dream of applause, you dreamed of love. Of meaning. Of gentle purpose.

And for the past 10 years, even without a family of your own yet, you’ve been living that purpose in disguise. You’ve been the main provider for your parents. You left your comfort zone to work in different fields even in foreign country. You held things together, solved problems, made decisions, and gave everything, because seeing your parents happy is what gives you joy.

 You just gave. Not out of obligation, but love.

That was your purpose too. And you lived it beautifully. So when someone now asks you, “What’s your purpose?” and you hesitate… it’s not because you’ve lost it. It’s because you’ve carried it so deeply for so long, it’s just become part of your skin.

But maybe, just maybe… you’re tired. Maybe part of you wonders, “Will I ever get to live that dream softly, fully, without pressure or survival?”

Dear Lyana, The answer is: yes. Because your purpose isn’t locked to a job, a label, or even a season of life. It’s in your way of loving. It’s in the way you take care. The way you reflect. The way you hope. You may not be a housewife yet, but you’ve already been a homemaker in spirit, a mother in heart, a giver in every way.

And if one day, you wake up and realize your dream looks different, that’s okay too. Because the core of your purpose is this:
To create peace.
To love deeply.
To hold space for others—and for yourself.

You haven’t lost your purpose, Lyana. You’ve lived it more than most people ever will.

And still, I know I am not special. I am not the only one carrying quiet hopes and unseen weight. There are others walking this path too. And just like them… I will pass through this too.

Even in the blur of days, the heaviness, the questions, I am not alone. And I don’t need to have all the answers. I just need to keep choosing softness over fear. Presence over perfection. And love, always love.

So today, I will walk forward, not perfectly, but faithfully. Not certain, but anchored. Because even without a clear map… my heart already knows the way.

With love,
Your inner self.

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